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Thursday, August 11, 2011

How to Help a Friend in Need

Two of my best friends have been going through a tough time for a while now - one is dealing with an infection that won't go away (but she's still able to get out and live her life), and the other has been the sole breadwinner for her family since her husband was laid off over a year ago.

Here are some things I've done to help them during the last year or so:

1. Give essentials. I get a lot of stuff for free or cheap through coupons, and everyone can use toothpaste, shampoo and pasta. My friends appreciate these things and knowing that I acquired them for little money makes it easier for them to accept.

2. Send cards. I suppose I could send e-cards, but there's something more meaningful about a snail mail card that's tangible. If my friend seems to be having a particularly tough time, I'll drop a card in the mail that says she's in my thoughts and prayers and that I hope things get better soon.

3. Be a good listener. I talk to my friends regularly and hope that they think I'm a good listener - a safe place to vent, rant, cry, or just work things out by getting a fresh perspective and ideas.

Lately, I've been wondering what else I can do to help my friends who are in need. I've offered to bring over dinner but that usually doesn't work out.

Any ideas?


  • At 8/11/11, 1:08 PM, Anonymous Nil said…

    Offer to babysit kids at your house one night and get them a movie package: frozen pizza, popcorn, movie rental, candy, soda (all things we can get for free). They can relax w/o kids and enjoy a movie.

  • At 8/11/11, 1:22 PM, Blogger LosAngelesCouponer said…

    Offering to babysit was also my idea. Running errands for a friend is something I have done in the past. Also buying groceries with a limit of $30 is something that would be much appreciated or a $10 Starbucks gift card for a break can also be helpful. I have found that paying it forward pays back to me in so many other ways. I enjoy helping others because what if it was us in need.

  • At 8/11/11, 2:35 PM, Blogger Camille said…

    Our neighbor is in a tough spot right now as well. How about baby-sitting with a restaurant or movie gift card? A gas card would probably also be welcomed. I pick up grocery store gift cards as well and give them to her because I know she needs food.

    If you don't want to be handing it all over directly (to make her uncomfortable), you could grocery shop on Amazon and have the items delivered. You can block your information or put in an alias.

    When we were first married and broke, the window on our van was shot out with a BB gun and we couldn't afford to replace it. A friend (we don't know who) sent us an anonymous check in the mail. It was the biggest relief ever and we made sure to make a very public thank you so that whoever it was knew we appreciated it.

  • At 8/11/11, 2:59 PM, Blogger Candice said…

    I also love being able to give things to friends and family members that I get free, or close to it. My grandparents are having a rough time, and it's so rewarding to give them a huge box of brand name foods and essentials, gotten for almost nothing. They are so thankful and amazed how I do it too. It's wonderful. Thanks for your coupons/match ups too!

  • At 8/11/11, 8:28 PM, Blogger Chief Family Officer said…

    @Nil - I don't know if babysitting will work out but I LOVE the movie package idea. Thank you!

    @LA Couponer - Those are all great suggestions, and you're absolutely right about receiving when you give!

    @Camille - That's such a heartwarming story, thanks for sharing! The Amazon order is a great idea too.

    @Candice - I love what you do for your grandparents, that's fabulous! I'm glad you find CFO helpful!

  • At 8/12/11, 10:01 AM, Blogger cnpkspirit said…

    frozen meals. when my father passed away our church brought over frozen meals so we wouldn't have to worry about it. Its common for new moms also. When grieving sometimes you don't even think to eat however, they would remind us when dinner was by bringing it.

  • At 8/12/11, 8:00 PM, Blogger Chief Family Officer said…

    Thanks, cnpkspirit!


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